Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

Recovery begins with nailing what your abuser is, especially when he is a psychopath and this book will help you see that, if indeed your abuser is one. Everything in this book is bang on. It will hurt in parts but it will name what you are dealing with, validate your experiences (when likely no one close to you personally can), and it will show you you had no chance against this twisted mind, so stop beating yourself up about where you went wrong. I became the victim of a psychopath in 2010. I was one of the ones who smelled a rather toxic rat and broke things off. Sure enough, 3 years and counting I am still being stalked, terrorised, harrassed, my car is vandalised (resulting in massive car crash through an electricity pylon which I am lucky to survive), my movements constantly monitored on and offline. Yes I agree with this book my stalker took turns to drive me to suicide or provoke/goad me to get back in touch with him (this wasn't because he wanted me to come back to him. He was setting me up as all psychopaths do. He was desperate to tell me he was married now and really really really happy. My psychopath is a callous sadistic stalker, voyeur, pervert and major criminal who enjoys his freedom when he should most certainly be in prison. He is a very dangerous man wrapped up in a bumbling english country gentleman persona, 'what me, why I couldn't even hurt a fly'. He will not only hurt a fly but you, your friends and even your children if it frightens you. His persona is drivel but it is a persona that fools a lot of people. I am paying a high price for sussing him out. This psychopath has done everything, just short of murdering me ( I hope I do not speak too prophetically) though he has goaded me to kill myself and as I say tampered with my car which many times could have resulted in my death. This book covers all of this. This is what psychopaths do and they don't just do it to you. If you are persecuted by them it's because you are stronger than them. In a way it's a compliment. They can't ever have the women they really want because the women they really want will always suss them out so they they have to settle and when they settle and feel entirely unsatisfied in their 'settled' relationship, they boil with anger inside and take it out on the women they couldn't have/keep. YOU! THIS BOOK IS ESSENTIAL READING to begin the process of stopping your mind going over and over and over and over again why it's your fault. What on earth did you do? You must have treated him very badly indeed. You must be a very bad person to attract such awfulness into your life. If only you knew what you had done so you could fix it. Read this book. Forget fixing a monster and concentrate on fixing yourself. Get some validation. No one else except other victims can give you that. So start by getting some from this book. You must firmly root in your mind that these people are inhuman. Inhuman. Completely and utterly inhuman to an extent you will find difficult to believe because you are so entirely human. I remember telling my psycho about a historical TV documentary I watched where scientists had performed cruel experiments on babies. The programme disturbed me and I described one of the dreadful experiments that was performed on a baby boy to my psycho stalker. Instead of being as disturbed as I was he laughed and began to act out how the baby must of looked during the experiment. My blood ran cold. I didn't understand back then what I was dealing with. I do now. A monster. If you are a victim of a psychopath take heart. Read this book over and over. Get some validation for your experiences. Be amazed at how precisely right it is in every way. And firmly root in your mind that they are inhuman. Stop endowing them with normal human qualities. They don't have any. This is what makes you better than them. No matter how it feels, no matter who they are, they are not better than you. Don't believe it when they stop at nothing to brainwash you into thinking that they are superior to you. They are not. They know they are not. That's why they have to work so hard convincing you you are worthless. TOXIC!!! Read this book. It might hurt a bit in parts, but in the end you'll just feel so validated when you do. Eventually you will stop thinking about them in ways that hurt you, you will start to get angry, then you will feel repulsed by them and then finally indifferent to them. I'm not entirely indifferent yet because i maintain a constant dialogue with the police because of the stalking but I am repulsed and certainly harbour not a shred of warm feeling for him, no matter how rosy it seemed at times in the past. Thank god. The bits about this book I suggest heeding most are the bits about looking after yourself. Treat yourself kindly. Look after yourself mentally, physically spiritually and really do apply the rules of no contact which are most vital. I wish I had had more strength during the worst times. This has without doubt been the worst period of my life and it has spoiled a substantial portion of my children's young life too. I don't know how I would have coped had I not found resources such as this book to illuminate the minds of these heinous people terrorists.

It took years for me to recover from my breakup with my ex. I had an inkling before breaking up with him that he might have been a psychopath, but it was easier and gentler on my heart and soul to believe that he did love me and it was just a relationship that went wrong. My head believed he was a psychopath, my heart did not. Years later, the word psychopath came up again and I was reminded of my ex and the question - was he really a psychopath? Is it possible that all the love and adoration I believed he felt for me was all part of a ploy? When I came across this book soon after, I was eager to read it asap. I'm so glad I did. Now, in hindsight, it is clear to me that I was in a psychopathic relationship and his flattery and praise was part of the love bombing and idealisation. I can see how he manipulated and took advantage of me. All the pieces fit together and it is reassuring to know that this has a name and that I'm not the only person who has suffered from this kind of absurd experience, which is difficult to explain to others if they haven't experienced it. It brings me peace and clarity to confirm my suspicions and to stop trying to believe the illusion of true love that I wanted to believe, even so long after breaking up and healing. I'm grateful I found the courage to leave him before I suffered even more. This book is well-written, informative, kind and positive. It is reassuring to know that victims of emotional abuse, which is now what I can recognise it as, actually have many good qualities, and that is what made us susceptible in the first place. Comprehending what happened is tough and isolating. I can see how this book would be helpful to people who suspect they are in a relationship with a psychopath or are recovering post-breakup, and I can confirm that it is also helpful to someone who has already placed the experience (mainly) in the past.

One of the best things on this subject I have read so far. There is no technical language, and no long clinical definitions, as with so many other books on the subject. Having been involved with a pathological narcissist for a few years, I have been struggling to get past this, with limited success. This book is written by someone who REALLY understands what the abused party has been through, and offers genuine hope and help for full recovery,starting right now. There is even advice for turning your experiences to your future advantage. There is a very useful list of 30 'red flags' to watch out for, and a clear stage-by-stage description of what you might expect during your recovery process. The author doesn't mince words, or skate over the more unpleasant parts, but he is gentle and humorous in his approach (some passages made me giggle out loud). If you have been (or still are) targeted by a narcissist, a psychopath or other kind of toxic emotional vampire, this is highly recommended reading. You will realise how many folks have been through this nightmare, how much real support is available, and that much of the weird oscillating back and forth between various emotional states is quite normal, and an essential part of overcoming your experience.I felt very sad at some passages, but the author helps you to face these truths very gently and kindly. All in all, a real balm for the battered self that feels it may never recover.

Livre intéressant donnant un aperçu des relations toxiques sans trop de complications. Il couvre la psychologie de base de la douleur émotionnelle et comment aller de l'avant.

I would highly recommend this book. It is easy to read and it is full of helpful information. It has helped me to understand what I am going through. It has crossed every T and dotted every i for explaining this type of emotional abuse. The book comes from the standpoint of a lover being a psychopath but I have found that it has helped me even though in my case it is a family member who is the psychopath. I have found it healing and comforting to get such validation for what I am going through. The abuse of these awful people is so underhanded sometimes we don't understand why we hurt so much. Great read!

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Dieses ist die erste Rezension überhaupt,die ich schreibe. Dies ist die erste Rezension, die ich schreibe. Ich bin so begeistert von diesem Buch. Als von einer Missbrauchsbeziehung Betroffene, die sich verhältnismäßig früh lösen konnte, habe ich mir dieses Buch als Begleiter gekauft und es nicht bereut. Im Gegensatz zu deutschen Büchern, wird hier dem Opfer nicht geraten, sich selber zu hinterfragen, Das tun die Opfer solcher Beziehungen ja sowieso ständig. MacKenzie hat den ,wie ich finde,sehr sinnvollen Ansatz, verstehen zu wollen, wie der Missbraucher tickt um sich schützen zu können. Das ist ihm erstklassig gelungen. Sehr gut recherchiert aber einfühlsam wie ein Freund, begleitet er den Leser auf der schwierigen Reise der Ablösung vom Missbraucher. Mir selber ist es dadurch um einiges leichter geworden, den Kontakt zum Täter nicht mehr aufzunehmen. Und nun, nachdem ich das Buch ausgelesen und zugeklappt habe, fühle ich mich stark. Wenngleich auch ein wenig traurig, dass ich meinen Tröster verlassen muss. Zu dem Buch gibt es einen Selbsthilfeblog gleichen Namens. Auch das ist mir eine grosse Hilfe. Jemand, der eine solche Beziehung nicht durchgemacht hat, kann nicht nachempfinden, wie schwer es ist, sich davon zu lösen. Dass biochemische Vorgänge im Körper das Opfer abhängig vom Täter machen, weiss kaum jemand. Umso schwieriger für das Opfer, wenn es sich gutgemeinte Ratschläge,wie,:,"Trenne dich doch einfach", anhören muss. Jackson MacKenzie hat selbst so eine Beziehung durchgemacht und man merkt ihm an, dass er weiss,wie schwer die Ablösung ist. Aber, wie viele andere auch, weiss er, dass sie zu schaffen ist. Und, ich habe es am Anfang nicht für möglich gehalten, aber ich bin stärker als jemals zuvor und möchte die Erfahrung nicht missen. Ich weiss jetzt, wer ich bin und was ich wert bin. Thank You very much Jackson for writing this book. It helped me over my darkest days with compassion and love. I made this terrible experience with my abuser but now, Thanks to You, I raised like a Phoenix from the ashes and feel stronger than before. I now know, who I am and like You promised me, I know now that I deserve much,much better. You have been a friend when I needed one, even though I have never known You personally. Thank You for writing this book.