What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger (What-to-Do Guides for Kids Series)

This book is amazing! I am admittedly dubious of self help books in general but bought this when other methods of improving the anger response of two my children continued to fail. We have been using this book as a family with all of our children because let's be honest, we all can use improvement in how we cope with our anger. The language of this book is humorous and easy to understand. We are using it with children that range in age from 6-11 and all are enjoying it. I love that the book helps children to not feel bad for feeling angry, there is no shaming. Instead it focuses on how we manage and respond to our anger rather than teaching that we should not feel anger. The explanations of anger that begin the book lay an excellent foundation for kids to be able to identify their emotion in preparation to begin implementing the specific strategies discussed later in the book. The strategies are easy for kids to use and effective! I would recommend working through the strategies slowly. After reading a chapter we focus on implementing the tool for several days or even a week or two until my kids have really gotten the hang of it and can use it on their own without prompting. Then we move on and learn and use another tool. This book has helped my entire family and our home life is much more peaceful. Not only are my children managing their anger better but their self confidence and pride has soared as they see that they can manage their emotions well.

Very helpful series.

I purchased this for my son nearly 9 months ago. He is now 8, and for about 2 years, he has struggled with anger, rooted most often in feeling bullied or teased, or somehow otherwise wronged. His anger has resulted in terrible heartache for him, and frustration and concern for us, his older brother and younger sister, and for friends and teachers. He and I started to work through the concepts in this book when we first got it, but it didn't resonate for him at that time. I think that perhaps he just wasn't ready then, and was still seeing it as others causing his problem rather than him looking at a way to take control of it for himself. Over the Christmas break, after more hurt feelings and outbursts, he was ready to sit down with me again. We reviewed what we covered before, and are now taking the chapters step by step, and he's figuring out how to incorporate the coping mechanisms in his life. In the last 6 weeks, I believe he's had fewer than 5 meltdowns, and he used to have that many in a single day. Additionally, he's able to control the intensity of these moments by using the skills we learned in the book. I'm so grateful for the change in him, and I don't think I could have done it without this guide. The terminology and approach was spot-on for my 8 year old. The examples, illustrations and worksheets were also very helpful and engaging for him. I highly recommend this!

I really liked how this book addressed the problem of anger in a unique way. The children I work with really like the analogies that are used that help them think about anger in a different way. However, I like to use this in a group and think this would be a great resource if broken down in lesson format. Also, I would have found it more useful if the activities presented were in more of a workbook format. Otherwise, I think the author had an interesting and new way to approach anger. I would recommend this resource as an innovative way to address anger management in children!

This is a fantastic resource for parents! I have a bright, amazing, caring 6 year old with an explosive temper. As any parent raising a child with intense emotions knows, it's extraordinarily difficult attempting to help your child contain their huge, oftentimes destructive feelings. What I love about this book is it does a fantastic job of not just offering coping skills, but clarifying that anger is a choice and it is a choice that has consequences. Using techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, it empowers kids to take accountability for their responses to situations. There are tons of books out there offering coping skills, mindfulness techniques, etc, but this is the first I've found that focuses on thoughts and behaviors in a simple, comprehensible way. Training my kiddo in calming techniques, like taking ten deep breaths hasn't helped that much, but she seems to respond well to the idea that she is in control of her responses. Perhaps it has something to do with the element of control...anger is often a bid to feel powerful in a difficult situation. The element of choice -- "how will I respond to this difficulty?" -- is one way to apprise control, though in a positive way. Anyway. Last thing: the price is awesome. Such a great deal for such a great tool. I'm so grateful for it.

As a parent, this book has given me some concrete tools to work through frustration points with my kids. Around our house, now we talk about what our "hot thoughts" are and what we can say instead as our "cool thoughts." It has totally influenced how we respond to situations. Please forgive me if this sounds a bit cheesy, but the techniques work. Not just for kids but adults, too. The author explains things in a simple, yet honest way and it makes sense. Somehow, this book worked for us and I believe you will find something useful from it. My daughter (age 7, 1st grade) really wanted to read this book in one setting. And, she is a great kid by all reports from her teachers (and us). :-) It's just that this book helps all kids, with any coping ability. On a scale with 1 being no coping skills, to a 10 being perfect, this book will move any kid up by at least one point... if not several points. If your kid is already at a 10... maybe you just need the book on anxiety. ha, ha just kidding This is a great book and I recommend getting it. [...]. Thank you

Livre excellent. Dommage qu'il ne soit pas disponible en français

Estrategias excelentes, escrito para que los niños le entiendan y si se trabaja al lado de un adulto...puede tener excelentes resultados.

Really good book. My 8 year old has a new found temper since lockdown, this book has been really useful. We read together and talk and do some of the excersizes, but it's basic enough for him to read and understand alone. There's a lot in here for anyone from age 3 or 4 upwards (including adults!) The key for us has been talking about it together and exploring and developing ideas the book gives us. It's certainly not exhaustive, but it is very user friendly and is designed as a journey to be read from beginning to end, but there are strategies and thought processes that help from the very beginning. Another real plus point is the fact it examines why gettimg angry is not desirable, before diving into how to avoid it. Although this can be read and the basics understood by an 8 year old, the key to maximising the benefit is taking the time to go on the journey with them

I love this series of books. Easy to follow and apply the CBT skills taught in it.

Gran libro para poder aprender a educar y gestionar las emociones de los niñ@s, y para adultos, ayuda a entendernos mucho mejor. Sin duda una gran compra. 100% recomendable.