POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse

This book was a lifeline for me - eye-opening and empowering. My own copy has notes in the margins, and stickies marking many critical pages. I have purchased at least 4 additional copies to give to friends in need.

This is such a liberating and life changing read. I'm deeply appreciative of all the time and effort the author poured into making this work so relatable and sending it into the world to free as many people as possible. This book is totally worth it. No more suffering!....its time to live my best life.

This book is one of the most validating and powerful reads I’ve ever experienced. Being abused by narcissists warps your mind in ways that most people don’t comprehend and this book puts that distortion to rest. It’s important to note, the perspective taken mainly speaks of narcissistic partners, but it is also applicable to family members (and other narcissists) as well. Don’t be discouraged by this. While I’ve encountered both, this book helped me tremendously with understanding and navigating life post narcissistic abuse from a family member. Make time and space to try the exercises, they are so helpful in reprogramming your brain from the distortions installed by narcissists. Oh and did I forget, the author’s voice is very powerful and uplifting. She speaks like a warrior, a fighter - more than just survivor. It’s infectious and it’s so inspiring. She more than lives up to her instagram handle!

This book has been a saving grace for me. I originally discovered it from a google search leading me to one of Ms. Arabi's essay regarding the 20 manipulative tactics used to silence you. I didn't actually even realize my ex (who I was still trying to remain friends with up until 2 weeks ago) was a narcissist. I knew he had bipolar and later found out he was discharged from the military for personality disorder (now I know what that truly means), I thought they were one in the same! I was shocked to discover he fit almost every single criteria of narcissism. While I don't believe he's a malignant narcissist, I do believe he is VERY close to that spectrum. I couldn't understand how a strong and loving woman such as myself kept falling back in with this guy. Every week felt like a month had passed, it was always so chaotic and disorientating. I was ashamed that I couldn't just quit him! Even up until the end it wasn't me that walked away, I was gifted with a 10 minute rant of how I was a terrible person, how I was crazy, how I was undiagnosed with schizophrenia and some sort of rapid thought disorder (whatever that even is) and then blocked from all communication. Before when I was blocked I was devastated, this time I was just over it. Yet days later I wanted him back. This book helped me realize I was actually physically addicted to him, the very words I told my therapist (yes I had to seek out therapy after we first broke up). I guess long story not so short, I'm so very grateful to have discovered this book, it has given me tools to get myself back, realize that what was happening to my mind, my emotions were completely normal and validated. So thank you from the bottom of my heart Ms. Arabi, you have really helped yet another person heal from this devestating abuse.

Good guide book for someone coming out of a bad situation. You have to overlook the author almost always refers to the narcissist as “ he”

This book is a must read for all survivors of narcissistic abuse. It will educate you and empower you to heal and thrive! This author has a gift of understanding through experience and the education of a therapist. I’m so glad I found this book!

I ordered this book after I sat in my vehicle in 90 degree heat recently in the parking lot of my job on a Saturday night. I could no longer be at the house with this narcissistic abuser I have been living with for 20 years. I could at least pick up some WiFi in the parking lot. As I sat there watching Youtube videos until I thought it was safe to go back to the house, I came across a fantastic video posted by this author Shahida Arabi discussing the importance of knowing what you can do to reclaim your life after narcissistic abuse and all the signs and symptoms of PTSD. I have been looking for a supportive and honest therapaeutic book to help me, and this is it. It is saving my life and instrumental in guiding me through the process of no contact. She knows this personality disorder from the beginning to the end. I wish I could thank her in person. Thank her for giving me the insight and validation that victims need to move forward in the process of healing from the nightmare of this type of damage. I wish I could have read this sooner. Highly reccomend this book.

This book illustrates examples of how you help to heal yourself. It also deals with your father being a narc if that is your case. Mainly though it deals with how to heal and become your own person without trying to gain a narc parents approval. To be honest about half way through if you lived this you don't need to read further. A lot is about the holistic approach to healing, which I don't need. For me just the validation that my mother was this and there was no way for her to stop being this was enough for me. I cut all contact with her toxic person and have never been happier. When she sends her "flying monkeys" I recognize them for what they are and ignore them as I do her. They don't want to deal with her and that's fine, they let her manipulate them, and that's fine too...I will no longer play her raindeer games. I just brush them off with platitudes and go on with my life. Happy in the knowledge that she can no longer hurt me.

Im a medical student, I read it a while a go and it really cool that has scientific evidence. It validates what you feel. Other books that I recommend if you happen to deal with a similar situation are The power of now by Eckhart Tolle and how to be a 3% man men by Coach corey. POWER helps validate what you feel understand what happen, helps you avoid the past mistakes and learn from there. Things do get better, I now how it feel to be down but trust me in some clock time you will looking back to this as one of the experience that most help you grow and learn. Things get better. The best is yet to come.

I have been awaiting therapy and am on a 3mths waiting list, yhis book was perfect for me to read to stop all my over thinking after the discard phase by my ex narcassist, everythi g you need to know about them and how it effects the survivors is in this book backed with research. May all survivors of narcassistic abuse heal and thrive in life, we worth more than the abusers life. Namaste

Ein detaillierter und einfühlsamer Ratgeber zu narzisstischem Missbrauch, der narzisstische Manipulationstechniken entlarvt und auch auf den Abbau emotionaler Barrieren (insb. in Form der Verortung der Schuld bei sich selbst) bei den Missbrauchsopfern hinwirkt. Für mich besonders wertvoll sind die Ausführungen der Autorin zu narzisstischem Missbrauch in der Familie und zu Isolation/Selbst-Isolation in Folge dieses Missbrauchs, da ich mich in diesen leider sehr stark wieder gefunden habe. Klare Kaufempfehlung meinerseits!

Shahida is probably the best author on this topic of narcissists. I had the misfortune to be with a covert narcissistic psychopath who made my life a nightmare of indescribable pain. Her books helped me to begin to understand what I was dealing with. If you only buy this book you’ll be in front.

Interesting book.