Withhold Not Correction

My husband and I read this book the first time when our now 23 year old son was only a year old. We didn't have a clue what we were doing as parents...Neither of us were brought up in homes where we were taught to love Christ or how much He loves us— that He died for us so that we could know Him, so discipline had nothing to do with Him.Growing up in a home that some would characterize as abusive, I was reluctant to use the rod before reading this book. Ray helped me see that it can be used in a loving disciplinary way that actually prevents abuse because its use is not based on my emotions but on the child's disobedience to God. And just like when we sin, that presents a wonderful opportunity to teach our children from before they can even talk, how glorious is it that Jesus lived an obedient life in our place and then suffered the punishment we deserve so that we could be in a right relationship with Him.Our four children are very close in age— oldest was 5 when the youngest was born. We didn't do it perfectly, and THE most important thing is prayer. But we found that the more consistently we implemented Ray's practical disciplinary guidelines, the less we spanked, and by the time they were 7 or 8, we almost never needed to spank.The other TREASURE in this book is the topical Scripture reference in the back that helps you teach your child that ultimately it's about obedience to God.

A timeless classic more needed now, than ever before in our history. Since the 1960's Dr. Spock, we have succeeded in filling our prisons and turning incarceration into a growth industry.Closeness means less correction, and correction is not punishment, as the author makes abundantly clear.This book helped me many years ago, and now is helping my son with his son. Loving correction and boundary setting producessafe and happy children.

Nothing super objectionable in here, but everything worth reading has been said better elsewhere by others. John Rosemond, the Pearls, the Love and Logic people, Henry Trumbull, William Gouge, etc.

This is the only guide I used for disciplining my children. It is true to God's Word. Of course, God's Word is final authority, but this helps to 'flesh out' His Word! We used this & the 'If Then' chart. If you want children that will grow up to follow God's ways, this is an indispensable tool!

What should be "logical" for a Biblically astute parent is, unfortunately, foreign to our thinking in most American families. This book is an excellent way to begin to distinguish truth from cultural confusion.

The teachings in this book are biblically sound and in accordance to God's divine Word. It gives parents a good understanding if what standards God expects of His stewards with regards to the young lives He has entrusted to them.

Very useful for young parents.

Great purchase. Thank you.