--- product_id: 59954343 title: "The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series)" price: "101 zł" currency: PLN in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.pl/products/59954343-the-covert-passive-aggressive-narcissist-recognizing-the-traits-and-finding store_origin: PL region: Poland --- # Healing Strategies Insightful Guide Psychological Insights The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) **Price:** 101 zł **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 🔍 Uncover the Truth, Heal Your Heart! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) - **How much does it cost?** 101 zł with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.pl](https://www.desertcart.pl/products/59954343-the-covert-passive-aggressive-narcissist-recognizing-the-traits-and-finding) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Expert Insights:** Gain knowledge from psychological research and real-life experiences. - • **Community Connection:** Join a supportive network of individuals on similar journeys. - • **Unmasking the Hidden:** Discover the subtle traits of covert narcissism. - • **Transformative Awareness:** Shift your perspective and reclaim your emotional well-being. - • **Empower Your Healing Journey:** Equip yourself with actionable strategies for recovery. ## Overview The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist is a comprehensive guide designed to help readers identify the traits of covert narcissism and navigate the complex emotional landscape that follows. With expert insights and practical healing strategies, this book empowers individuals to reclaim their lives and foster emotional resilience. ## Description desertcart.com: The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series): 9780998621340: Mirza, Debbie: Books Review: Get this book if you know you’re dealing with any kind of narcissistis - Worthwhile read. Details behavior w examples. Strengthens resolve when determining relationships viability. Very helpful if you think you’re dealing with narcissist that is more complex. Review: Debbie Mirza nails it. - Bingo! At last, bingo! I get it. With Debbie Mirza’s book I have finally been able to put together the last pieces of the complex, tangled jigsaw puzzle I’ve been piecing together through several years of psychotherapy. Everything fell into place when I read her book. Finally, finally I was able to read about MY experiences, MY own truth about being in intimate relationships with covert passive-aggressive narcissists—a perfect term for them. I’d often suspected narcissism lay behind their behavior, but when I’d read about narcissists as defined in the DSM or other books, things didn’t quite fit. But in Mirza’s book, all the pieces fit. I am a softhearted empath always ready to rescue anyone (or any living being) with love and compassion. I’m open and easily make myself vulnerable in an attempt to reach true loving communication with my other. That strength was turned against me by intimate others who needed to put me down so they could be in control, get things their way, get their needs met, my needs of no matter and unmet. It was so confusing! My intimates were the joy of my heart, one of them the love of my life, but then without warning, they would shun me, withdraw affection, gaslight me into thinking I’d done something terrible. I had no idea what I’d done to cause them to behave this way. But the truth is, I did NOT “cause” them to be emotionally abusive toward me. It was all about them, their inner demons, their needs, especially their need to keep me under their thumb so they could get their way and feel powerful rather than weak and insecure, which is how they truly felt. There is nothing I ever did to deserve this emotionally abusive treatment. It was not about me. It was all about the squirellyness going on inside them. I finally got it. Not a single other person who knew my intimates would ever suspect any of them were capable of emotionally abusive behavior. To the rest of the world, they were accomplished, lovely people. Covert abuse is the exact right term. Their facades were flawless. I understand my complicity—that my empath’s need to rescue and help others with love and kindness filled a need I had when I sought to rescue and help the narcissists in my life, whom I did love—a love each was incapable of reciprocating because they truly don’t get what love is. I understand now how I got into these painfully confusing relationships. I understand how I was the perfect target for their self-serving power plays. I also see myself clearly. I know who I am, and I am not who they tried to make me think I was when their gaslighting found me wanting. I am a thoroughly good and kind human being capable of love and caring. I am enough, just as I am, worthy of love and respect--at all times, not just the manipulative sweet times. This book helped me put all the pieces together. I was almost there on my own after years of psychotherapy, but this book showed me how the last pieces fit together and glued them in place. Thank you, Debbie Mirza. Last comment: Psychotherapists need to read this book. Out of five therapists over the past twelve years, only my current one clued me into “It’s not about YOU; this is on the other.” She recognized their unacceptable behavior, saw me for who I am, and guided me toward insights I needed into my intimate others and into myself. With my other therapists, the focus was on me fixing me, me “getting in touch with my emotions,” me learning to be “assertive,” me changing my attitude by keeping "a gratitude journal," me accepting that “this is the way a lot of men are” and I needed to deal with it—when what needed fixing was me getting out of these relationships sooner than ASAP and finding the freedom to be who I am. Getting out of the crazy-making relationship is the only way forward. There is no changing a covert narcissist. Heaven only knows, I tried. And failed, in my first marriage and in my second. I'm 82 now, and I've never been happier in my whole life just being me, unencumbered by intimate others who professed to love me but then would emotionally devastate me without warning or cause. I hope this book helps younger women get out of crazy-making relationships sooner than I was able to. I couldn’t put the book down. I underlined, highlighted, wrote notes in the margins, circled paragraphs, dashed off huge exclamation points. This book is going to help a lot of women. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #12,980 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #2 in Domestic Partner Abuse (Books) #5 in Personality Disorders (Books) #98 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) | | Book 1 of 2 | The Narcissism Series | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (4,887) | | Dimensions | 6 x 0.51 x 9 inches | | ISBN-10 | 099862134X | | ISBN-13 | 978-0998621340 | | Item Weight | 11.8 ounces | | Language | English | | Print length | 226 pages | | Publication date | December 6, 2017 | | Publisher | Debbie Mirza Coaching | ## Images ![The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series) - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71tSYV4qv5L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Get this book if you know you’re dealing with any kind of narcissistis *by C***. on March 8, 2026* Worthwhile read. Details behavior w examples. Strengthens resolve when determining relationships viability. Very helpful if you think you’re dealing with narcissist that is more complex. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Debbie Mirza nails it. *by W***Y on August 24, 2024* Bingo! At last, bingo! I get it. With Debbie Mirza’s book I have finally been able to put together the last pieces of the complex, tangled jigsaw puzzle I’ve been piecing together through several years of psychotherapy. Everything fell into place when I read her book. Finally, finally I was able to read about MY experiences, MY own truth about being in intimate relationships with covert passive-aggressive narcissists—a perfect term for them. I’d often suspected narcissism lay behind their behavior, but when I’d read about narcissists as defined in the DSM or other books, things didn’t quite fit. But in Mirza’s book, all the pieces fit. I am a softhearted empath always ready to rescue anyone (or any living being) with love and compassion. I’m open and easily make myself vulnerable in an attempt to reach true loving communication with my other. That strength was turned against me by intimate others who needed to put me down so they could be in control, get things their way, get their needs met, my needs of no matter and unmet. It was so confusing! My intimates were the joy of my heart, one of them the love of my life, but then without warning, they would shun me, withdraw affection, gaslight me into thinking I’d done something terrible. I had no idea what I’d done to cause them to behave this way. But the truth is, I did NOT “cause” them to be emotionally abusive toward me. It was all about them, their inner demons, their needs, especially their need to keep me under their thumb so they could get their way and feel powerful rather than weak and insecure, which is how they truly felt. There is nothing I ever did to deserve this emotionally abusive treatment. It was not about me. It was all about the squirellyness going on inside them. I finally got it. Not a single other person who knew my intimates would ever suspect any of them were capable of emotionally abusive behavior. To the rest of the world, they were accomplished, lovely people. Covert abuse is the exact right term. Their facades were flawless. I understand my complicity—that my empath’s need to rescue and help others with love and kindness filled a need I had when I sought to rescue and help the narcissists in my life, whom I did love—a love each was incapable of reciprocating because they truly don’t get what love is. I understand now how I got into these painfully confusing relationships. I understand how I was the perfect target for their self-serving power plays. I also see myself clearly. I know who I am, and I am not who they tried to make me think I was when their gaslighting found me wanting. I am a thoroughly good and kind human being capable of love and caring. I am enough, just as I am, worthy of love and respect--at all times, not just the manipulative sweet times. This book helped me put all the pieces together. I was almost there on my own after years of psychotherapy, but this book showed me how the last pieces fit together and glued them in place. Thank you, Debbie Mirza. Last comment: Psychotherapists need to read this book. Out of five therapists over the past twelve years, only my current one clued me into “It’s not about YOU; this is on the other.” She recognized their unacceptable behavior, saw me for who I am, and guided me toward insights I needed into my intimate others and into myself. With my other therapists, the focus was on me fixing me, me “getting in touch with my emotions,” me learning to be “assertive,” me changing my attitude by keeping "a gratitude journal," me accepting that “this is the way a lot of men are” and I needed to deal with it—when what needed fixing was me getting out of these relationships sooner than ASAP and finding the freedom to be who I am. Getting out of the crazy-making relationship is the only way forward. There is no changing a covert narcissist. Heaven only knows, I tried. And failed, in my first marriage and in my second. I'm 82 now, and I've never been happier in my whole life just being me, unencumbered by intimate others who professed to love me but then would emotionally devastate me without warning or cause. I hope this book helps younger women get out of crazy-making relationships sooner than I was able to. I couldn’t put the book down. I underlined, highlighted, wrote notes in the margins, circled paragraphs, dashed off huge exclamation points. This book is going to help a lot of women. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Narcissist vs Empathy *by K***. on January 24, 2026* Very compassionate and clearly written as she addresses narcissistic abuse. Maybe better in a narcissistic spousal relationship but still very good showing patterns and flying monkeys and all the things that narcissist use to manipulate and control the empathetic. Still reading as it takes time to work through all as you are reading. 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