--- product_id: 246193 title: "Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition" price: "165 zł" currency: PLN in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.pl/products/246193-self-therapy-a-step-by-step-guide-to-creating-wholeness store_origin: PL region: Poland --- # Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition **Price:** 165 zł **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition - **How much does it cost?** 165 zł with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.pl](https://www.desertcart.pl/products/246193-self-therapy-a-step-by-step-guide-to-creating-wholeness) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Understand your psyche in a clear and comprehensive way, and resolve deep-seated emotional issues. Self-Therapy makes the power of a cutting-edge psychotherapy approach accessible to everyone. Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) has been spreading rapidly across the country in the past decade. It is incredibly effective on a wide variety of life issues, such as self-esteem, procrastination, depression, and relationship issues. IFS is also user-friendly; it helps you to comprehend the complexity of your psyche. Dr. Earley shows how IFS is a complete method for psychological healing that you can use on your own.Self-Therapy is also helpful for therapists because it presents the IFS model in such detail that it is a manual for the method. Review: High quality book - I think the book is excellent - I've already recommended it to numerous people. Internal Family Systems is the best thing I'm come across in the psych world in the course of reading a fair number of psych books in my 44 years, and this book by Earley does a great job of explaining it. IFS is not the simplest thing in the world to explain in writing, yet the book nails it by combining clear illustrations, good organization and thoughtful writing. It also has numerous exercises you can do yourself. And a section of tips on doing IFS with a partner, and on working with a therapist. The book is written to be accessible to the general public, which is the only broad-based introductory IFS book I know of yet that is in good measure written for the public (i.e. not written for therapists). It's largely written for the person who will be going through therapy or wants to practice IFS on their own or with a partner. I think even having the awareness of the concepts and info will help most people, even if they don't do the exercises. The great thing about the above is it gives IFS a better chance of making a bigger impact on the world than is possible simply through therapists. There are only so many therapists, and only some know much IFS and relatively few have been trained in it, or are now slated to be trained. Besides letting more people do it on their own, I think IFS therapists in general will benefit from it because I think a good number of people who read it and find IFS appealing will at some point in the upcoming years of their life will go to an IFS therapist to experience the added benefits of therapy or tackle harder things that need a therapist. Kind of like how the Grateful Dead became the highest grossing tour band in the U.S. because they let people record their concerts and share copies for free. More people got copies of the music, liked it and then went to concerts, bought t-shirts and bought CDs. The more people who are introduced to IFS through books like this, the more the average IFS therapist will have people knocking on their door looking to do it. One small note is that while the tagline of the book mentions "healing your inner child," my impression is that according to IFS and to the author (Earley) and my own experience of myself, most people are healing several inner parts of themselves, including some adult parts that are not serving them well. While I don't care about sub-titles, I thought I would mention the above to clarify in case it's needed for anyone that this is not some half-baked new age book talking only about healing an inner child. As the first half of the tagline conveys, IFS works with all parts of our personality, and tries to get all aspects of who we are more healthy to better serve us. Healing the childish parts of us that are often unconscious is certainly an important part of the process, and the book is a multi-dimensional approach to those parts and other parts of who we are. In case you haven't heard of IFS, it is a respected psychological system and is used primarily by licensed therapists and clinics, and recommended by many respected leaders in the field. The founder of it was the co-author of one of the best selling textbooks on marriage and family therapy used by universities, and who taught at one of the top schools in the country. It's not a passing fad and not a new-age gimmick with the aim of selling books. IFS is not family therapy - Schwartz used the systematic thinking common in family therapy to discover that we have our own internal set of sub-personalities or parts that combine to form who we are. Often some of the parts are on track and some are not, and need some assistance from us in coming to serve us better. The book focuses on how you can learn what the parts of yourself are, how they operate, and how you can help them learn and mature to become better at serving you. Doing so takes time. Don't expect to read this book or any book, and have easy answers or have most things figured out just like that. It takes ongoing time and attention. My guess is that most people will need to read the book again in a year and delve deeper in the second time. Overall, the writing in Self-Therapy is lucid and understandable, without dumbing down. I think the book would also be helpful to therapists looking for a strong intro to IFS, or to therapists who know some about IFS and want to know more. When you consider that the founder Richard Schwartz was able to help a lot of people when he first started doing IFS, and it was only part-way developed when he first started doing it and he had no book with lots of details explaining it to help him, I would assume that a high quality therapist could read this book and begin using some of the concepts in their practice. If you click on my profile, you'll see that I'm a real person, and that I give things poor ratings as well as good ones, and that I don't often give something such a strong review. If you stumbled across this book while surfing the net, I strongly recommend you plop down the small cost to get it. It might well change your life. And at the least, I think almost all people will get at least $15 of value from it, enough to be worth the cost. It's very rare that I find a book I can say that about. Review: Definitely a true expert here - Well....first of all, before I say anything, a 5-Star rating just has to be awarded to this book. Wow, Jay has really covered the subject masterfully, you couldn’t really ask for more of an author. So thank you Jay for working through the writing of this, it seems as though it must have taken a lot of careful effort to do so. And so on to my personal reflections....first, I’d like to say that IFS is paradoxically amazing. Why paradoxically? Because the model could so easily be accused of being a big placebo, silliness really, no science, make believe, etc. And yet, no - it really does have a power and an efficacy like nothing else I’ve ever encountered in the world of psychological therapy. For a as yet mysterious reason, it really does work. But yes, if you’re a logical scientific skeptic you may feel yourself needing to just give in to the imagery and allow your rational mind to step back from analysis...which will in return allow you to experience a much different and more effective form of understanding your internal and even external problems. So this is really something powerful and fascinating. First of all, one begins with the puzzling question of the ontology of sub-personalities. As if reading Jung, one can doubt that any collective unconscious exists doubt that there is any validity whatsoever to archetypes....and yet it does seem to give us a model to make sense of the inner mysteries of the mind....since there really is no firmly established theory of mind nor of the nature of consciousness, one may as well go ahead and give room for a Jungian landscape of animate entities within. From here, through several generations of psychological theory, we get to IFS. Your feelings and drives and opinions and emotions are not merely neural firings of electrons but rather cohesive sub-personalities with each it’s own intentionality and agency, affecting you in myriad ways. One might understand this in parallel with studies of the ego structures, which have powerful influence over the reality we presume ourselves to be immersed in. And yet these are no more than provisional mental structures, beyond a Self can conceivably exist. Take this to a more literal level and you arrive at IFS. Your inner family is quasi-literal, a community of protectors and injured exiles hiding within who mean well but cause us constant strife and pain until they are re-educated by the loving non judgemental true Self of Buddhism (or Hinduism - the Altman). Once this unfettered and healthy seat of consciousness is identified and made the central orchestrator of your life the parts gradually “unblend” (step back) and allow healing to occur by the very proactive leadership of this wise and loving Self. Still with me....it’s really quite something, but I must say this: I was never able to experience a moment of higher consciousness in my half century life until I had an IFS session with a therapist...and then I did. And it really is indescribably good. There really is a non-troubled, seemingly external untainted Self in there. I felt it. Honest. Really. I experienced it. It happened. So, if you just read this and never experienced it it can seem like silly talk, but give in to it, try it yourself of with a therapist, and watch how immensely useful it becomes to you. Now, finally, just like my review, the words go on and on and on. It is a giant model and will take a lot of time and work to internalize and gain traction with. There are steps and processes and intuitions and meditations and and and .....huh. It can get really tiring. But I would just have to say, it’s worth the effort. If you’ve been plowing though self help and psychological spiritual readings for years and feeling still somehow stuck... Turn to this. Really. Try it. It’s different because it really does work. And by the way the language is all common every day easy to understand. No obscure Pali scriptures or lofty abstractions. Done. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #196,895 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #83 in Popular Psychology Psychotherapy #4,612 in Personal Transformation Self-Help | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 1,270 Reviews | ## Images ![Self-Therapy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness and Healing Your Inner Child Using IFS, A New, Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71Bwk-JVIqL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ High quality book *by P***N on January 24, 2013* I think the book is excellent - I've already recommended it to numerous people. Internal Family Systems is the best thing I'm come across in the psych world in the course of reading a fair number of psych books in my 44 years, and this book by Earley does a great job of explaining it. IFS is not the simplest thing in the world to explain in writing, yet the book nails it by combining clear illustrations, good organization and thoughtful writing. It also has numerous exercises you can do yourself. And a section of tips on doing IFS with a partner, and on working with a therapist. The book is written to be accessible to the general public, which is the only broad-based introductory IFS book I know of yet that is in good measure written for the public (i.e. not written for therapists). It's largely written for the person who will be going through therapy or wants to practice IFS on their own or with a partner. I think even having the awareness of the concepts and info will help most people, even if they don't do the exercises. The great thing about the above is it gives IFS a better chance of making a bigger impact on the world than is possible simply through therapists. There are only so many therapists, and only some know much IFS and relatively few have been trained in it, or are now slated to be trained. Besides letting more people do it on their own, I think IFS therapists in general will benefit from it because I think a good number of people who read it and find IFS appealing will at some point in the upcoming years of their life will go to an IFS therapist to experience the added benefits of therapy or tackle harder things that need a therapist. Kind of like how the Grateful Dead became the highest grossing tour band in the U.S. because they let people record their concerts and share copies for free. More people got copies of the music, liked it and then went to concerts, bought t-shirts and bought CDs. The more people who are introduced to IFS through books like this, the more the average IFS therapist will have people knocking on their door looking to do it. One small note is that while the tagline of the book mentions "healing your inner child," my impression is that according to IFS and to the author (Earley) and my own experience of myself, most people are healing several inner parts of themselves, including some adult parts that are not serving them well. While I don't care about sub-titles, I thought I would mention the above to clarify in case it's needed for anyone that this is not some half-baked new age book talking only about healing an inner child. As the first half of the tagline conveys, IFS works with all parts of our personality, and tries to get all aspects of who we are more healthy to better serve us. Healing the childish parts of us that are often unconscious is certainly an important part of the process, and the book is a multi-dimensional approach to those parts and other parts of who we are. In case you haven't heard of IFS, it is a respected psychological system and is used primarily by licensed therapists and clinics, and recommended by many respected leaders in the field. The founder of it was the co-author of one of the best selling textbooks on marriage and family therapy used by universities, and who taught at one of the top schools in the country. It's not a passing fad and not a new-age gimmick with the aim of selling books. IFS is not family therapy - Schwartz used the systematic thinking common in family therapy to discover that we have our own internal set of sub-personalities or parts that combine to form who we are. Often some of the parts are on track and some are not, and need some assistance from us in coming to serve us better. The book focuses on how you can learn what the parts of yourself are, how they operate, and how you can help them learn and mature to become better at serving you. Doing so takes time. Don't expect to read this book or any book, and have easy answers or have most things figured out just like that. It takes ongoing time and attention. My guess is that most people will need to read the book again in a year and delve deeper in the second time. Overall, the writing in Self-Therapy is lucid and understandable, without dumbing down. I think the book would also be helpful to therapists looking for a strong intro to IFS, or to therapists who know some about IFS and want to know more. When you consider that the founder Richard Schwartz was able to help a lot of people when he first started doing IFS, and it was only part-way developed when he first started doing it and he had no book with lots of details explaining it to help him, I would assume that a high quality therapist could read this book and begin using some of the concepts in their practice. If you click on my profile, you'll see that I'm a real person, and that I give things poor ratings as well as good ones, and that I don't often give something such a strong review. If you stumbled across this book while surfing the net, I strongly recommend you plop down the small cost to get it. It might well change your life. And at the least, I think almost all people will get at least $15 of value from it, enough to be worth the cost. It's very rare that I find a book I can say that about. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Definitely a true expert here *by E***L on December 27, 2020* Well....first of all, before I say anything, a 5-Star rating just has to be awarded to this book. Wow, Jay has really covered the subject masterfully, you couldn’t really ask for more of an author. So thank you Jay for working through the writing of this, it seems as though it must have taken a lot of careful effort to do so. And so on to my personal reflections....first, I’d like to say that IFS is paradoxically amazing. Why paradoxically? Because the model could so easily be accused of being a big placebo, silliness really, no science, make believe, etc. And yet, no - it really does have a power and an efficacy like nothing else I’ve ever encountered in the world of psychological therapy. For a as yet mysterious reason, it really does work. But yes, if you’re a logical scientific skeptic you may feel yourself needing to just give in to the imagery and allow your rational mind to step back from analysis...which will in return allow you to experience a much different and more effective form of understanding your internal and even external problems. So this is really something powerful and fascinating. First of all, one begins with the puzzling question of the ontology of sub-personalities. As if reading Jung, one can doubt that any collective unconscious exists doubt that there is any validity whatsoever to archetypes....and yet it does seem to give us a model to make sense of the inner mysteries of the mind....since there really is no firmly established theory of mind nor of the nature of consciousness, one may as well go ahead and give room for a Jungian landscape of animate entities within. From here, through several generations of psychological theory, we get to IFS. Your feelings and drives and opinions and emotions are not merely neural firings of electrons but rather cohesive sub-personalities with each it’s own intentionality and agency, affecting you in myriad ways. One might understand this in parallel with studies of the ego structures, which have powerful influence over the reality we presume ourselves to be immersed in. And yet these are no more than provisional mental structures, beyond a Self can conceivably exist. Take this to a more literal level and you arrive at IFS. Your inner family is quasi-literal, a community of protectors and injured exiles hiding within who mean well but cause us constant strife and pain until they are re-educated by the loving non judgemental true Self of Buddhism (or Hinduism - the Altman). Once this unfettered and healthy seat of consciousness is identified and made the central orchestrator of your life the parts gradually “unblend” (step back) and allow healing to occur by the very proactive leadership of this wise and loving Self. Still with me....it’s really quite something, but I must say this: I was never able to experience a moment of higher consciousness in my half century life until I had an IFS session with a therapist...and then I did. And it really is indescribably good. There really is a non-troubled, seemingly external untainted Self in there. I felt it. Honest. Really. I experienced it. It happened. So, if you just read this and never experienced it it can seem like silly talk, but give in to it, try it yourself of with a therapist, and watch how immensely useful it becomes to you. Now, finally, just like my review, the words go on and on and on. It is a giant model and will take a lot of time and work to internalize and gain traction with. There are steps and processes and intuitions and meditations and and and .....huh. It can get really tiring. But I would just have to say, it’s worth the effort. If you’ve been plowing though self help and psychological spiritual readings for years and feeling still somehow stuck... Turn to this. Really. Try it. It’s different because it really does work. And by the way the language is all common every day easy to understand. No obscure Pali scriptures or lofty abstractions. Done. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ My Life will Never Be The Same ♡ *by J***N on April 10, 2021* This book changed my life, and I can't imagine my life without it. Full stop. I started with an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist a little over 2 years ago, and I found her methods really helpful. She started giving me IFS homework where I would do tiny, mini sessions of connecting with myself and my challenging feelings (anxiety, fear, unworthiness, etc.). That felt helpful too. Being impatient and wanting to heal my childhood wounds faster still, I researched IFS materials and found this book. This book is a textbook, a workbook, and a walkthrough of the IFS process from start to finish -- discovering, connecting with, and healing the parts of you that have emotional wounds (or "burdens") from your past -- and it teaches all of this in simple, easy-to-understand language. The book provides thorough explanations, examples, and exhaustive "what to do if this doesn't work" alternatives and solutions. Since purchasing a year and a half ago, I've read and worked through all but the last 2 chapters, and have used what I've learned with myself as often as 7 times a week, or as little as 5 minutes in a day to create greater calm, inner-peace, and love for myself. Am I completely healed of all childhood trauma? Of course not. But my quality of life is slowly but surely improving in ways I can't begin to measure, and many ways I'm sure I don't yet realize. This book doesn't really offer "quick fixes," so if you're having trouble just getting through the day, you may want to start by seeing a therapist, or if you're not able to, research some emotional exercises; CBT is one methodology that offers a lot of tools and strategies to help regain homeostasis (THIS REVIEW IS NOT MEDICAL ADVICE). Though there may be an inescapable spiritual quality in IFS, there is no mysticism or magic. In order for IFS to work you don't need to believe in anyone or anything other than yourself, and your capacity to be curious, to love, and to hold space for compassion. I recommend this to anyone and everyone who wants to fill their life with more peace, love, curiosity, and compassion. If you have any hesitation at all about whether this book is for you, feel free to reach out -- I'm joniokun on ig. (I'm not receiving any money to do this, I just believe in the method.) **CAUTION** I will add a note of caution here that the author and other reviewers have also mentioned: If you experienced serious, deep trauma when you were younger, it may be safer to begin your IFS work with a trained IFS therapist who can help you take baby steps and wade carefully and slowly in from the shallow end, instead of trying to carry the burden all on your own. ♡ Whether or not you choose to buy this book, take care, and know that you are loved, and you are not alone. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.pl/products/246193-self-therapy-a-step-by-step-guide-to-creating-wholeness](https://www.desertcart.pl/products/246193-self-therapy-a-step-by-step-guide-to-creating-wholeness) --- *Product available on Desertcart Poland* *Store origin: PL* *Last updated: 2026-05-19*